Tuesday, May 4, 2010

The Perfect Mother's Day Gift

Being a mother is very different now than it was when I was a child. Now, because of the boomer generation, more and more mothers are also grandmothers, great grandmothers, even great, great grandmothers. We’re often part of the sandwich generation meaning we’re taking care of our own children and also our mothers and fathers, often ailing. Many of us are juggling two careers (or more!) if we’ve chosen to work outside the home as well as take care of that home ourselves. We partner more with husbands or partners who are sharing responsibilities that once were only under the purview of the mom - of - the - house.

But moms are still the same in many ways. We are still often the fixers, the worriers, the most caring of caretakers. This is a year when moms may need more tender care than they’ve been given in the past.

The trouble is, the traditional ways don’t seem quite right this year.

Flowers seem very frivolous for households on a budget. I’ve always felt sad when I must throw away wilted blooms. Candy sure is yummy, but it is not the perfect choice for many who are diabetic, hypoglycemic or working on slimming their hips. The beautiful cards at CVS often don’t say the rig ht thing or don’t reflect our mothers’ personalities. After all, we’re not all that sentimental, syrupy kind of mom the pastel cards seem; we may resort to humor which then doesn’t reflect our feelings.

The answer is a book of poetry. One that reflects many aspects of motherhood and all the relationships surrounding it. Mom won’t expect all the poems to fit your relationship with her; instead she’ll get to reflect on motherhood in general and choose the passages that have special meaning for her. Those may reflect ways she relates to her own mother, reflect the ways she relates to you, or maybe even open a subject you should have talked about with her long ago.
Magdalena Ball and I have written such a chapbook of poetry for mothers with photos by May L. Lattanzio. The title comes from one of my wistful poems, “She Wore Emerald Then . . .” We hope you’ll consider ordering it for your mother from Amazon. They’ll ship fast and you can give it alone or slip it into a the box filled with a pashmina scarf, a pair of silver - tone earrings, and appreciation from thou!

Find it at www.budurl.com/MotherChapbook.

Here is one of the poems from it:

Wishing to Be a Child Again

She goes too long

in the telling of a story.

Gutters between her brows

make her angry

even when she's not.

If I had know then

I would not have looked so hard,

have listened for the sweet

notes, ignored how on and on she went

I would have loved what I had.

And here is the cover of that book in colors Mom will love: 
It is from our Celebration Series of chapbooks. A new concept in poetry chapbooks, as nearly as I can tell.

Happy Writing and Promoting,

Carolyn Howard - Johnson


  1. Donna-- Lovely post and what a wonderful idea! You have a lovely Mother's Day!

  2. What a wonderful idea! Thanks for the suggestion and the introduction.

  3. Lovely poem. If my mother were alive, I'd love to give her your book.I think she would have liked it.

    Happy Mother's Day to you, Carolyn, and to you, Donna.

  4. I enjoyed the blog post and the poem was beautiful. A wonderful gift suggestion for Mother's Day!

  5. Thanks for the suggestion. This looks like a wonderful gift for mothers! Hope you have a beautiful Mother's Day!


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